1 Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” 2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.
Paul introduces the next topic of sexual matters fittingly after he speaks about sexual immorality in the previous passage. In verse 1 he states that its a good thing that men and women don’t have sexual relations. He is talking about those who are not under the covenant of marriage and also those who are able to control themselves in this area as some are able to do just as Paul was. But in the case that they are unable to hold themselves, rather than commit sexual immorality before God, he says that the men and women should have sexual relations with his/her own husband/wife under the covenant of marriage.
In verse 4 Paul continues to explain the covenant of marriage in regards to sexual relationship. That both the husband and wife are completely united with one another and therefore both should fulfill their sexual relations as husband and wife for each other out of love. This doesn’t mean it should be forced upon either partner, but rather as a gift of love to each other. If the husband/wife had the ability to control themselves from sexual relations even with their own husband/wife then that is also good if both of them consent. If either husband/wife can’t control themselves then they should come together.
5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 I say this as a concession, not as a command.
Paul suggests that husband/wife shouldn’t deprive each other of sex, as marriage was given as a blessing for this purpose and in this way they can continue to serve God. In this way neither of them will be tempted to stray outside of their marriage. In verse 6 Paul states that what he has just proposed isn’t a command from God but rather how he has judged the matter of ‘holding back’ sexual relations in marriage. If they choose to follow what he says in regards to not depriving each other is up to the individual. Every situation/relationship is different so if its harmful to one person then obviously the right decision should be made for that individual.
7 I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.
In verse 7 Paul states that he wished they were all as he was, in relation to the previous verse, intending that they would have the kind of self-control that he had. But he then affirms that everyone has their own gift from God, and acknowledges the fact that there are some who have full self-control over sexual matters, while there are others who might excel more in other gift areas.
8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. 9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
As per previous verse, Paul addresses the widows and unmarried men and women. It would be good if they stayed unmarried (in other scriptures Paul gives reasons for why it would be good, such as devoting their time wholly to God and not being divided) but just as Paul had mentioned that some aren’t able to control themselves sexually just as he can, they should get married.
10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
In keeping with God’s commandment on marriage Paul tells the Corinthians that if they are married they shouldn’t seek divorce but rather to be reconciled to each other out of love. If a married couple do divorce due to adultery, which is the only grounds for a divorce given through Moses, then they should remain unmarried. The only time they would be free from this is if her ex-husband/wife is no longer alive. Then they would be free to re-marry. But Paul heavily encourages all married couples to stay together rather than seek divorce.
Matthew 5:32 “But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.”
Luke 16 :18 “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.”
Romans 7:2 “For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage.”
12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
To those who are Christians and are married to non-Christians Paul continues to uphold the covenant of marriage in that the Christian should not seek divorce because of their differences in belief, that is of course that the non-Christian is willing to live with the Christian.
His reason is because the non-believer in the marriage will be made holy because of the believer (not “saved” but made holy). Likewise their children would be made holy. This could be due to the fact that there is at least one person in the family who is a believer and can proclaim the gospel to their family members, thus saving them from death. Also the believer can bring up their children in the ways of the Lord.
15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16 How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
The only grounds for them to leave each other (only between a married believer and unbeliever) is if the unbeliever chooses to. In this case, the believing wife or husband isn’t bound to their unbelieving partner any more as God calls them to live in peace. Any disharmony would be due to their difference in belief. However Paul makes it clear in verse 16 that the believer may be able to save their unbelieving husband/wife. So those who do believe in God and are married to an unbeliever should always seek to lead them to Christ rather than seek divorce.
1 Peter 3:1 “Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives,”
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